This morning I was reading in Mark chapter 3 and 4. In chapter 4 Yeshua is talking in parables to the crowds and his disciples. He talks about a farmer sowing seed. Talking about how some seed fell alongside the path; and the birds came and ate it up. Other seed fell on rocky patches where there was not much soil. It sprouted quickly, because the soil was shallow; but when the sun rose, the young plants were scorched and since their roots were not deep they dried up. Other seed fell among the thorns, which grew up and choked it so that it yielded no grain. But the other seed fell into rich soil and produced grain; it sprouted, grew and yielded a crop.
We can take this parable and apply it to exactly what we've been talking about these last couple of weeks. When we face tragedy and grief we can handle it kind of like the farmer sowing the seed. If you think about it the birds in the first section are the toils of life and what we are conditioned to believe. How we should heal and on what time frame. Sometimes and probably actually most times not heal at all. That we just need to get over it and back to life. Well this doesn't get any of us that far and when you don't take the time that YOU need there can be greater consequences. Let's look at the rocky area. This person is doing great facing the waves as they come, working through their emotions for the first little bit. But then it becomes too hard to handle, life over throws your walk through grief and you wither down to no strength at all. Then there is the thorny patch where we find solace in unhealthy ways. We start to self medicate and use these medications to drown out our emotions to a point that we don't remember if we are feeling or not. We get choked out by our own patterns and never face what truly is the issue at hand. Then there is the rich soil. To me the rich soil is where you come when you are finally ready to face your grief and do it in a healthy way so that it flourishes. Yes, grief can be painful, challenging, and draining, but if you stay focused and walk with your grief it can turn into something that produces a crop worth harvesting.
Even if you are in a stage that is not in the rich soil doesn't mean that you can't get to the rich soil. In life sometimes we have to tell society off, regain our strength, put down the medication and go for a walkabout. Find a center point of what you want to achieve and find a way to achieve your goals. It's kind of like jumping off the high dive into the pool. It might be scary, intimidating, make you nervous, or even just uncomfortable, but once you take the leap and jump into the water you find that it's not so bad after all. There will be challenges of pain and suffering, but there will also arise a new strength within you. A strength that helps you face the pain of love, the tears from memories or lack of memories, the anger of not being able to, or any other emotions that you might have. To heal ones heart comes challenges outside our comfort zones, but in those challenges comes growth that is unfathomable. Growth that not only changes you, but those around you. Grief teaches us deep love, because this love that we give is not given back. For the dead can not give back in love, but they can give back by being the water that helps our love grow.